Figuring out what it is that you really want.

I understand how hard it is to figure out just what you really want. What you want out of life, your relationship, your career, even raising your kids. For most people, myself included, it is hard to map out an “end game”. Meaning, what you want the end game to be.

I had a hard time figuring out what I really wanted. I had to think long and hard about my goals with everything. My “end game” had to support me some type of way. I had to be the winner in the end. That “winner” mentality sent me spinning out of control because I never put me first. I never thought about me and what I wanted. It was all about what everyone else wanted or needed, never about me.

I found out quickly that no one knows what they want but, the common denominator in it all was me. I was the root of everything. I was the kids mom and I had to eventually phase myself out of a job so they can conduct themselves independently. So that has become my job. I am raising them so that they won’t need me so much and can do for themselves.

Believe me when I tell you that I felt guilty about this at first. I felt like a horrible mom because I had given my kids structure and discipline and all they wanted to do was play. I quickly got over that. They showed me that they wanted to learn and help. I sure was fooled. I just knew that I would get some type of push back or conflict. Surprisingly, There was none. I am so glad I pushed myself there. Now my kids have a routine that they love and I have less work to do.

My relationship was next on the list. Of course, I consulted my husband on this and asked him what he wanted. We ended up wanting the very same thing and came up with a plan to achieve that goal together. Now that, I really did not for-see. I thought that at least he would give me some flack or a lame excuse but, there was none. Now we are on a clear path and walking in it together as one. I could not be more happy.

My career was next on the agenda and let me tell you that was a hard one. I’m currently a stay at home mom. I have a few social media platforms that I post content to and I love it. I get a revenue from it and that helps to pay the bills. In my opinion, if it doesn’t make dollars, it doesn’t make sense.

I also have a couple of successful businesses and we are financially stable because of them. I love working for myself. What I have been doing was working well so we are not going to re invent the wheel just give it a new direction.

For you, these things may be a little harder to sort out. Don’t worry. You will get to the point where I am now. You’ll know exactly what you want and how to get there. Don’t be afraid to pull out a pen and paper to map everything out. That also helps to gain clarity. When you begin to see everything clear, you can figure out where to go from here.

Don’t be afraid to let some things go. I had to learn that the hard way. Letting go of what clutters your life is the first step to making room for what you really want. No one holds on to their trash from day to day so why keep holding on to the trash in your life. It will lift some weight off of your shoulders and you will be glad you did.

Take into account you and what you need. Everything around you should make you happy. Like Marie Condo says, it should spark joy. When you get clear on what you really want and make a plan to get there you add intention to your life. That brings a worthwhile feeling into your brain. Your subconscious will feed on this positive energy and you will be amazed at what you can accomplish.

You have the power and it is waiting on you to see it and use it. Get your life organized and get your plans in place so you can grow and prosper.