Rediscovering Myself

During the now almost two years we have been going through this pandemic, I have been dealing with a lot of shadow work and mental health issues of my own. Shadow work is an introspective psychological practice that anyone can do and can lead to a more fulfilling life. When working with the shadow, you may have moments of awakening that lead to greater authenticity, creativity, and emotional freedom.

Doing the inside work necessary for my own self improvement gave me the direction and clarity I needed to make real lasting change. I have been able to rearrange my habits and schedule to better suit my needs. I have regained my confidence and even became more punctual. Which, has been a weakness of mine for many years.

I’ve had time to reflect on who I am and what I believe in. I found myself editing my wardrobe and changing my hair to suit my needs, which, before the pandemic, were not being met by me very well.

Because of the pandemic, I was able to focus on myself and take better care of my needs and the needs of my family. I didn’t know what any of the shadow work was until I started my femininity journey. I felt like I had lost touch with my femininity and I went on a video hunt on YouTube to find out how to activate my feminine energy.

What I found was a treasure trove of insight and advice that literally changed my life. I rarely give any recommendation’s about YouTube because everyone’s taste is different, but if you are trying to activate or re-activate your feminine energy I would definitely go to YouTube and type it in and give some of these awesome content creators some love.

Twisted Feminity

For the past six months I have been feeling a little out of sorts. I was exhausted and un motivated. I felt out of control and not myself. I was depressed and had just given up on myself so to speak. I wasn’t doing my hair, my nails were a mess, I didn’t care for myself well at all. I knew something needed to change.

I started searching on YouTube and came across some very interesting video content about leveling up and femininity. I was searching for tips on how to always look good and Pandora’s box was opened. There were literally thousands of hours of content on the subject. Each and every one with a different statistic involved.

Most of the popular content I have seen is about self care, which we all need right now or about leveling up, which is a whole different subject. Femininity is truly a social construct. It is a set of actions and character traits. Most feminity can be learned, some only comes with being female, which is also discretionary. I was looking for true, female feminity.

Fast forward to today and I have finally achieved balance in my mind and my life. I am functioning on a better level today. The content I found, along with some good old fashioned research has helped me in ways that I could have never imagined. I was in love with myself again with a whole new perspective about self care and femininity as a whole.

What Changed?

My Idea of self care was generated around consumerism and the notion that I could buy products and that would make me feel better and that just wasn’t the truth. I needed to sort out what I considered to be self care. I had to reprogram my mindset.

Self care wasn’t a bath or a candle, it was a system that I would set up that would help me to be more productive, organized and stress less. I was basically going to have to mother myself. Just like I mother my children, I would have to show myself that same love and give myself that same attention.

I felt unworthy at the time, I really had to shift my thinking. It was time for a mental makeover. I developed a system to get me to work on time. I know that this may seem mundane but follow me here.

I was at least ten minutes late to work on a daily basis. My manager was sick of it and I was reprimanded. This defeated me because using the system I had, which was none, I was thinking that I was doing my best. I needed to save my job. I observed myself for a week and found out that I wasn’t starting my day on my terms.

I usually was awakened by a school bus horn or my phone ringing which meant I had to give something or someone else my attention as soon as I got up in the morning. I wasn’t able to give myself that attention because I didn’t create time for me.

So, after careful planning and research, and a lot of self-help books, I created a schedule that allowed me to start my day on my terms. I started by going to bed earlier so that I could wake up earlier and a month later I am slaying my mornings.

I never thought I could do this. I was so used to my mornings being a chaotic rush. Now I am up at 5am. I’m the first person up out of bed in my house each morning. This schedule gives me time to take good care of myself before meeting the needs of my family or the demands of my job.

Femininity is not one size

While most of the tips and advice I got was a big help, most of it was not a good fit for my life and my schedule. I had to make some adjustments to fit my needs. This was easy for me because I knew exactly what I was looking for. Most people dive into these searches not knowing what they really want out of it.

Take yourself and you lifestyle into consideration. Make sure to pick out the advice you use like picking out flowers. Only the most beautiful and the ones that really speak to you. Everything isn’t for everyone. What may work for me, may not fit into your life.

Be careful not to get too caught up in the “high value woman bit”. Your value is determined by you and not what you wear or how you act. Respect and love yourself and you will show others how to treat you. Don’t let these strangers behind a computer screen determine your worth. You are awesome and one of a kind. Love yourself. I know I do.

My First Charlotte Tilbury in-depth product review

Pillow talk Dreamy eye kit

The Pillow talk instant eye palette and Full fat lashes mascara. This Palette and mascara really surprised me. I wasn’t ready for the gorgeous pigment and the soft blend of these shadows. I am reaching for this eyeshadow palette every day. It really is gorgeous and soft on the eyes. The shimmers are beautiful and they blend like a dream.

The mascara was also a surprise. It has the perfect name because just like the name says it gives you full fat lashes. It builds and builds. You can go overboard really quick. The formula and volume are incredible. I am forever hooked.

Airbrush Flawless Bronzer- Deep

This product started it all for me. The Airbrush Flawless Bronzer in deep. I purchased it after hearing and seeing hundreds of rave reviews. I couldn’t believe how many people loved this product. No matter the age or skin tone, everyone loved this bronzer. I got it in the mail and I haven’t put it down since. This was the product that introduced me to Charlotte Tillbury.

This, light as air, powder bronzer is so highly pigmented and easily blend able, which these two descriptions are rarely used together to describer a product, let alone a bronzer. I thought that it would be too warm. It is warm but in a flattering way on my skin tone. It gives me the perfect sun-kissed, and when I’m heavy handed, bronzy glow. It is like sun in a compact.

Hollywood Superstar Glow Highlighter

Another show stopper is the Hollywood Superstar Glow Highlighter.

Now this one had me on the fence for a while considering how many highlighters are on the market right now. From drugstore to high end, at least every brand has ten or more highlighters in their line.

The price didn’t deter me much considering the fact that I am in the middle of a makeup declutter and am now realizing how much money I am literally throwing away. I was ready to invest in one great highlighter instead of a hundred just okay ones.

This product certainly did not disappoint. It is as beautiful in person as it is in pictures. It is the most universally flattering champagne gold. Every skin tone across the board can wear this highlight. It’s not packed with glitter. It builds nicely. It doesn’t emphasize texture and it is beautiful to look at on your vanity. It is as huge as the bronzer and a great investment if you want something that will always work and last a long time.

I love kits. they make applying your makeup easy and simple. It’s really hard to find a face palette that can suit a variety of skin tones and still have ease of application. I believe that Charlotte Tilbury has made it her life’s work to make sure we are polished and put together on a daily basis no matter what. Her products and formulas are just unsurpassed. Each and every palette is crafted with the everyday woman in mind. We all have different styles, different lives, careers, etc.. Charlotte Tilbury made sure there was a kit for every woman in every walk of life and style.

Gorgeous glowing beauty makeup kit

Here comes the Gorgeous glowing beauty. This kit has literally saved my life. I use it every day and it is a staple in my makeup bag. When you need to get ready quickly, a face kit is truly a gem. The best thing is that I can use the whole palette. Every single product in this palette suits my complexion. I can’t go wrong with this kit. The only thing there is to add is my favorite concealer and powder and I’m off. This palette gives the perfect, glowing, neutral, daytime appropriate look. Whew! That was a mouthful.

I love the warm, mauve tones of this palette. The bronzer and blush go great together. The highlight glows without glitter or sparkles. This is truly for the grown and sexy or corporate America girl. You just can’t go wrong. This is an all powder palette, so you can use the powder any way you like. I have used the bronzer as blush and the blush as eyeshadow. The options are endless.

Here is a must have pair. Liquid foundation and pressed powder. You may say that there is nothing special about this. I’m here to tell you that I said the exact same thing. I asked myself, “How is this so much better than stuff I already have?” “Do I really need this?” I wonder how the coverage is?” I did my research on this product. I found all the reviews that I could and all of the ones that I trusted were giving these two products rave reviews and 5 stars. Of course, I was late to the party but, I still managed to get in. I have been loving this combination for the longest time now. I’m almost done with the foundation which, I might get a backup of.

The powder is really the star of this classy act. It blurs and perfects to give you a true airbrushed appearance. I have been in love with this powder from the first swipe. I love the finish and it gives just enough coverage.

The products are just the tip of the iceberg in the Charlotte Tilbury collection. She has made incredible products that have changed everyone’s makeup game for the better. I can’t wait to see what she does next.

Best High End Makeup of 2020

Hello loves,
These are the products that make my morning and ultimately my day a whole lot easier. I love each and every one of these product and I will have each one linked below. Have a happy and safe holiday season.

Products Mentioned:

Charlotte Tillbury :
Magic Cream- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Magic Cream light- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Wonder glow primer- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Instant look in a palette -stoned rose- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Instant look in a palette- gorgeous glowing beauty- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Airbrush flawless setting spray- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Full Fat lashes Mascara- https://www.charlottetilbury.com/us/p…

Other products mentioned:

Pat McGrath Labs sublime perfection concealer- https://www.sephora.com/product/pat-m…

Fenty Beauty bronzer- cocoa naughty- https://www.sephora.com/product/sun-s…

NARS- Soft matte complete foundation- caracas/ medium-deep 3.3- https://www.sephora.com/brand/nars?ic…

MAC mineralized skinfinish natural -Dark- https://www.maccosmetics.com/product/…

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My Planner Dilemma

I have had a love affair with planners and planning since middle school. I can’t ever remember a time when I didn’t have a planner or some type of agenda. Now that I am a wife and mother having a planner means so much more to me now. I have appointments and keeping a steady schedule are staples of my every day life. I have to keep my plans together and my schedule is very tight.

Back in 2014 I came across MAMBI (me and my big ideas) and the Happy Planner. I enjoyed this planner for years. It was fun an functional and I loved all the colors and designs. I went sticker and washi crazy. I collected so many planner stickers and accessories that I overwhelmed myself. “Comparison is the thief of joy” I don’t know who said it but it’s the truth. Instagram photos of other layouts and YouTube videos of other people’s planner left me very un-inspired because my planner didn’t look like theirs.

Needless to say, I eventually stopped using the planner and moved to a more minimal style to try and get my life together. I tried a lot of different minimal styles and companies until finally I decided to take matters into my own hands and create my own planner from scratch.

First, I decided on a size. A5 was a favorite of mine. I had enough room to write while still being portable. The classic Happy Planner was not travel friendly. Second, I decided on a style. I love how The Happy Planner was easily customizable but the pages would fall out and not sit right so, six rings became my favorite. Finally, I went on a hunt for inserts that were functional, minimal and straight to the point. I found a company called Cloth & Paper. Their inserts were beautifully simple and minimal. I fell in love.

After finding the inserts and size I enjoyed I went on a hunt for a beautiful binder. I found a small company, Notiq, that was also geared at a more minimal aesthetic. Most of all it was PINK! I know that seems like a vain reason to pick a binder but the beautiful, soft, pink blush really attracted me. I loved the weekly inserts so much that a bought a half-letter plan book, on gold discs, no less. I now have two planners of two different styles and size. Half-letter and A5 aren’t much of a size difference other than the way these two are bound.

Notiq Saffiano Planner cover
Notiq Blush pink quilted

Both of these planners are my absolute favorites and they are vital to me keeping it all together as well as the key to my sanity. I’ve been doing double duty by keeping both of these updated simultaneously. Now that we have reached the end of the year I have set up both of these planners for 2021 with different jobs. The one on the left will be my social media planner and the one on the right will be my personal, catch all planner that will be with me everyday.

I will have more in depth explanation and setup of each. For the most part, my social media planner has weekly lined inserts and my catch all has daily inserts. Both of which you can get at CLOTH & PAPER – LUXE PLANNERS, DIVIDERS, & INSERTS (clothandpaper.com). They sell multiple size inserts for multiple size planners. Use code CPFAM for 10% off. (not an affiliate link)

I used to switch out planners every other month. I was in search of the mythical creature called “planner peace”, which I have quickly found out does not exist. Your planner should bring you peace and not you being at peace with your planner. If your planner gives you the least bit of anxiety, not related to an event or task inside, it is not the planner for you. Your planner should be a welcome site that brings you joy and fills you with passion to seize the day. If your planner does not inspire you to get more done and be great, get rid of it and start again. If it takes you more time to plan than to act, or planning takes you away from being productive, you should seek some planner advise. There are thousands of planner guru’s on Youtube that will help you get your planning together.

I had a big problem with procrastination and keeping a planner helped me to get through that. I hope that this post and your planner help you as much as mine has helped me to be a better planner and in some ways, person. Organization is important but not at the expense of living life and enjoying your time here. Make your life and your planner as simple as possible and you will be successful in everything you set your mind to.

Teamwork, A beautiful dance.

If you have ever watched a Tango or Ballroom dance, it is a beautiful thing to watch. Each person in sync with their partner and the steps they take. This is teamwork and leadership on the grandest scale. Being able to lead also means being able to follow.


Every great leader knows that sometimes you have to be able to follow. No one who has ever become a leader was never a follower. And even in life, all leaders, CEO’s, heads of state, they all must follow at some point. This is the difference between a good leader and a great leader.

Knowing your team is another mark of a great leader. You have to be confident in your team. Just as the dance partners are confident in each other. Knowing that if one falls the other will help them and pick them up if need be. This confidence comes in knowing your team. Knowing their strengths and weaknesses. Observation and testing is the best way to know your team. Mother birds have to let the baby bird fall in order to know if they can fly.

The same logic applies to relationships. Knowing your partner (team mate) can help your relationship tremendously. Knowing each other’s strengths and weaknesses, not for exploitation, but for the flow of energy between two people lovingly in sync with one another. When we master our emotions and really analyze what’s in front of us we can make better decisions for ourselves and our future selves.

Teamwork is not only a beautiful dance at work but also a beautiful dance in life. It takes us all to do our part and support each other. Not in scornful judgement but in loving direction and teaching.

I hope that this post helps someone who is struggling with teamwork or leadership. I want you to know that in order to be a great leader, parent, partner, friend, spouse or human you must learn to be patient with those you love and lead and have compassion for them. Everyone is different. and it is those differences that make us strong and unique, especially when we unite to form a great team, marriage, or family.

Notiq A5 blush pink planner setup.

This beautiful planner has been a blessing to me in so many ways. I have been in love with this planner since I received it a couple of weeks ago. My planning style has changed so much over the years. I started out with a Happy Planner, then moving into a Traveler’s notebook, now into an A5 rings.

I love an A5 for the space. The Happy Planner wasn’t portable or compact enough for me. A traveler’s notebook just wasn’t enough room. I needed the space and functionality. I love how customizable an A5 ring bound is and this planner cover is so gorgeous. I love the way it feels in my hands. I love the way it looks when I open it and lay it out on my desk. I love that it’s small enough to fit in my bag. My very large bag. lol.

Notiq is a black owned luxury stationary company that has some cult following as well as some great philanthropy to empower women. Vivian, the owner has a great personality and she is dedicated to awesome customer service. She sends out each and every order with a hand written thank you note which, I think, is so sweet and classy.

If you have not seen what the Notiq brand has to offer you can visit their website http://www.notiq.com and find them on Instagram @notiqbrand.

Goal setting for the new year

I know it’s a tough subject to think about right now but it’s time to set some goals for 2020. We all start out the new year with resolutions, which we break within 10 minutes of the new year. This year I’m starting with goals. I want to accomplish more in the new year besides a whole night sleep.

After carefully reviewing every aspect of my life, I have come up with carefully thought out goals and action steps to help me to reach each one. This sounds simple, but it took me a few days to sort out what I really wanted out of life and how could I get there.

I had to sort out the attainable from the totally rediculous. I have a lot of wants, all of my wants cannot be turned into attainable goals. Most of my wants were really broken down to achievable by a change in routine or habit. My real goals, had a series of steps and levels to the finished product.

I have four planners that help me to achive daily, weekly, and monthly goals. All of them are different sizes and only one system is a different type. I picked each of these planners according to what information I will be keeping track of in each. I’ll go into more detail of each in a later post.

When you get your clear vision about what you want out of life and make a plan of how you will get there, trust your judgement on what if any planner or planning system will work for you.

Here are a few pointers to help you along the way.

1. Separate your wants from your needs. Most goal setting is stumped by wants vs needs. Needs are necessary for everyday life, wants make getting your needs easier, comfortable or more efficient.

2. Be realistic about your goals. Nothing hurts worse than trying to reach an unrealistic goal. It’s like trying to go to the moon without a space ship.

3. Don’t stop with a general goal. Keep going by writing your action steps out. Then you can see your plan in action.

4. Take your time. This is your goals and your plan. Don’t compare yourself to anyone else or conform your goals based on where you should be. Plan for where you are and where You want to go and not where others want you to be.

5. You don’t have to be a superhero. Your goal are about you and only you. Don’t feel bad for that. You are not responsible for helping others achieve their goals. Don’t allow them to make you feel bad about your success.

I hope this post helps you to rock your goals this year. Go for it. Don’t let fear keep you from your dreams.

2020 The year of clear vision.

The beginning of a new decade is days away and I have strategically set up my life and my routines to serve me greatly in the new year. 2019 has shown me a lot about myself, my loved ones, my friends and my life. My elders had a saying when you were not living with your priorities in order. They would say, “When you see life, all that other stuff will change.” meaning that when you realize what’s really important, you’ll get your act together.

Well, I’m here to say, they were absolutely right. Living with a conscious mind, and an open perspective has brought me many blessings. I can finally see clear. I am finally focused on what really matters to me and now I am ready to receive whatever the universe has for me. I am ready to embrace life and all that it brings.

This year taught me a lot of hard lessons. I have suffered and prospered all in the same breath. I am ready to move on and take my lessons with me. I have aligned myself with the universe and am grateful for all that I have and all that I am going to receive.

Life has an interesting way of getting you to pay attention and be present. I’m thankful for every wakeup call. I hope that you have found a great lesson to take with you into the new year. I hope this new year brings you much joy, love, prosperity, and self awareness.

I am totally aware of myself and what my job here is. I am totally at the mercy of God and his great design for my life. I don’t know my purpose but I am well aware of my calling.

Happy new year to you all and I hope that we will be blessed to share many more together.